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Rabbit, Aggrieved

1/20/2025

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Rabbit, Aggrieved



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"Rabbit, Aggrieved" - oil on yupo, 12.5 x 19 inches.  This item is unmounted and unframed.  (click on the image to purchase)

​"Hallo, Rabbit,” he said, “is that you?” "Let’s pretend it isn’t,” said Rabbit, “and see what happens. -  A. A. MILNE

Did I mention the rabbits have taken over the studio?  That rabbits multiply, on land and by paint?  The studio rabbits have determined it is their role to express societal emotions this year.  Aggrieved - feeling resentment at having been unfairly treated - hello, YES!

I'm not very good at feeling anger and its cousins (resentment, bitterness, irritation, frustration) because people have not really felt anger around me during my life - they've done anger.  And anger as an action is pretty shitty.
​So I've been given permission (homework, even!) to go ahead and feel aggrieved.  You mention one word of that to rabbits, and they've already made a banner and started a parade!  

It turns out there are benefits to feeling and expressing anger .  Anger is protective and reveals our boundaries.  Anger heals trauma.  And anger inspires action.

Anger unexpressed creates shame.  And shame resides in all kinds of places in the body.  Are your shoulders tight?  Got headaches?  Belly woes?  Anger wants you to stop leaving yourself.  Oh, oh and OH!

So what does healthy anger look like?  It is kind and firm. Think of it as assertive communication.  Something you pay attention to with kindness and curiosity before taking action.  

Unlike these rabbits, who just left the studio in a rampage and may end up on the evening news.  Sheesh!
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About the art:  this rabbit (the second in a series of  lagomorphs) was inspired by the works of Möbius and Diebenkorn.  Beginning with a rough sketch in thinned oil paint and slowly adding layers of color.  The trick with this one was getting the dark side very, VERY dark so the rabbit would hop out (ha ha) in a dramatic way.  Allowing the paint to slide down the Yupo toward the bottom is a nice softening of the hard edges higher up in the piece.  This guy is seriously thinking about how he feels before he does anything about it.  Good advice, rabbit!
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11 Comments
Dotty Seiter
1/20/2025 11:14:46 am

Lola, love that (familiar) A. A. Milne quotation, and love all the deets in your About the Art section—always something to learn, admire, swoon over here at your blog. And love that lagomorph's leading the way with lagging mindfully a bit between feeling and leaping.

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lola
1/20/2025 03:21:35 pm

Dotty!!! Thanks so. much for enjoying this lagomorph and for finding things to learn, admire and swoon (!!!) over on the blog! Hooray!!!!! xoxoxo

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Trina
1/20/2025 12:04:31 pm

Anger and hurt are so close it’s sometimes very difficult to separate one from another. In my older age I have learned to let the anger sit a spell…. I need time to process and have now given myself full permission to do so. Have you given yourself permission now to get mad? Do you rant and rave? Throw paint? What does your anger look like? Xoxo

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lola
1/20/2025 03:23:23 pm

Trina!!!! They are close, aren't they? It is much easier for me to feel hurt than angry. Taking time to process, as you do, is so key to making a choice in responding, instead of just reacting. I have, indeed, given myself permission to get mad! But no ranting here, just a kind but firm boundary setting and permission to walk away when I need to . xoxoxo

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Trina
1/20/2025 04:57:21 pm

Hmmmmm making the response your choice- gives you the power to do what’s best for YOU, f- brilliant!

Thea
1/20/2025 07:23:34 pm

So anger for you can be a verb not just a noun? It can take the form of an action whereby you draw a line or let the rabbits carry you off to safety? That seems way more productive than binge shopping, road raging or breaking crockery- food for thought, thanks Lola.

lola
1/21/2025 02:39:19 pm

Trina (and Thea, embedded in Trina's reply) - realizing we have a choice in how we respond (or don't) to anger is the key, I think. Whether you experience anger as an adjective or a verb (or both) making a conscious decision is the difference between feeling self-love or regret perhaps?

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Terry McCabe
1/20/2025 10:52:57 pm

I love this piece....the colors and expressions really speak to me...

BRAVA LOLA!

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lola
1/21/2025 02:40:31 pm

Terry!!! Thanks SO very much! The colors just make me SING! And, well, rabbit expressions are an important part of processing anger in the world perhaps? ha ha! xo

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Todd
1/22/2025 06:41:22 pm

My fellow rabbits, the time is now. No longer will we sit idly by, leaning into stereotypes conceived long ago, as the world dismisses us as merely "cute" and "cuddly." Our ancestors’ course of inaction need not be our own. We must strike out and find our true path. Caged and coddled no more I say! Gather your hay and pellets and join me. The time of their Wascally Wabbit is nigh. Leporidae of the world, unite!

First though, anyone know where they get those pellets?

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lola
1/23/2025 02:31:50 pm

Todd!!! ha ha! Caged and coddled no more! Love your comment! And good question about the pellets...hmmmmmmm, now I am wondering? xo

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